My fiance and I are planning a modest wedding as we’re paying for the majority of it ourselves and our budget is limited. However, my sister got married last year at a lavish affair and I’m worried that guests, many of whom will attend both, will compare my wedding day as less than my sister’s nuptuals. I know I shouldn’t care what other people think, but I do. How can I stop feeling this way ?
Well, Mr. Simon has an answer for himself… and those who are planning June nuptuals.
No one has ever thrown a party without worrying that it’s not going to be as good as another person’s festivities. However confident we might feel,all of us are apt to be uncomfortable when on display and a couple is never more on show than on her wedding day.
Having said that, it’s essential to take things back to basics and remember; you’re planning this party because you’re getting married, tying yourself forever (hopefully at least) to the man or woman you love and that signifigent other is well worth any anxieties you might be experiencing while planning the big day.
If you’re confused about what you want included in your big day, Simon advises you to write a list of the things you don’t want; once the bride and groom are clear about their dislikes, they’ll have a great start on what they do want for their perfect day.
If, from past experience, you know that certain friends or family can be relied upon to make vocal comparisons of your choices then the simple answer is not to invite them!
This is your day and your money; you control the guest list but if familial or social obligations demand that you invite those who might compare you and your sister unfavorably, prepare yourself in advance for any hurtful comments. Strong one-liners, such as, “This wedding is about us and what we like, and I’m so happy you can enjoy it with us†, are good options to thwart the undermining guest who will likely have no comeback whatsoever and you can float off happily to enjoy the rest of your day.
